Judging by the title you are probably wondering am I serious? You read that right, he literally shit himself while having sex with me. This by far is the funniest and most embarrassing sex story that actually happened to me. I was in relationship with this guy for a little over a year when this happened. We had intimacy issues throughout the relationship. There’s really no nice way to put this other than he sucked in bed. He was a one pump chump, and had no game whatsoever since the beginning. The first time we had sex I should have went running. This was the last sexual encounter I had with him, and I ended things pretty shortly after this. Recalling back to the night, I was pretty sexually frustrated. We hadn’t been intimate for quite some time. So, I suggested we have sex and got things in motion so to speak. We were in his bed, and I was laying flat on my back while he was standing. You get the picture. He was semi hard, but I went with it anyway. It was over about as quickly as it started. He went inside me twice before finishing when all of the sudden I heard him groan and grab his stomach. I jumped up real quick and was like what the hell? Only to find that he had taken a dump on the floor. He made a run for the restroom. I was completely in shock and wanted to laugh so badly. I didn’t due to the embarrassing nature of the situation. I put on my clothes, and waited for him to get out of the restroom to address him. However, he took his sweet time in there. So instead, I texted him and dipped out. As funny as the situation was, a part of me was completely hurt because at the time I couldn’t figure out what the hell was the matter with me. He always blamed me for his short comings in bed (pun intended). He would tell me that I was too intimidating, and that I was too much of a sexual freak for him. I didn’t understand because you don’t get much more vanilla than missionary. I toned down for him completely, and was left unfulfilled every time. As much as I regret being with him, I learned an important lesson with him. That is that sexual satisfaction and intimacy is key to a lasting relationship. Lack of intimacy and sexual satisfaction can lead to lower self esteem, problems with self-confidence, feelings of neglect, and issues connecting with your partner. For those reasons, I will never again compromise that. Intimacy is important to me in a relationship, especially since it’s a way I express love. I realize it’s not important to everyone, and that’s okay if you’re content with that. I, however am not and will never be. This article was not intended to hurt anyone or embarrass this person. I wanted to put this story out there so people can learn from my mistakes, and maybe some of you can even relate.
We live in a world today where we have the power to be anything we want to be. Just think about that for a while. How amazing is that to know that you have the control and hold that power? This world is filled with opportunities, when one door closes another will open. If you’re feeling lost and hopeless, take a second and ask yourself what led you to this place in your life? Ask yourself where you want to be? Then I want you to take out a piece of paper and make list of things you have to do to get there. Don’t let anything get in the way of your goals. Block out all the negativity, and self-doubt. Tell yourself that you can do this, that you are going to do this, that everything will get better, and tell yourself that you are strong enough to pull through this. If there’s one thing I learned in my life is that it doesn’t stop, and it keeps going as do other people. Many of us spend a majority of our time taking care of others. We forget to take care of ourselves. We sacrifice what we want and need in order to meet someone else’s needs. It’s nice to make someone else happy, but we cannot forget ourselves. We cannot forget ourselves because if you don’t take care of yourself, who will? Once we let ourself go mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, we are no good to anyone including ourselves. So take the time to work on your life, to do whatever it is that makes you happy, and think outside the box a little. We have the power to be something different in this world. So why be like everyone else?
Do you ever feel like you’re in the wrong place like you’re destined to be somewhere else? No matter what you do or accomplish, you still have that feeling like you can do bigger and better things. This feeling never goes away for me. Ever since I could remember, I told people I would never stay where I was at. I knew at a very young age, I was meant to do something great, something big with my life. I realize for many people this may sound like aspirations. For a while, I tried to convince myself that it was just that. I thought I would wake up one day, and be content where I was at. The older I get, the stronger the feeling and/or urge is for me to pack everything and follow my gut. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very happy where I am now, but there is just something in me driving me to go out and do more in this world. This is making me question everything I have done up until this point. I’m in school right now, and my major is in clinical psychology. Whenever I start to question whether this is right for me, something occurs within my life that assures me I’m on the right path. This has proven to be true for other aspects of my life as well. However, the one thing that has never been certain for me is this place where I’m at right now. I ask myself sometimes where is home, and I realize it’s not here. I know it in my heart where I am supposed to be, but following through with this means leaving everything behind. I know when I leave, I’m going to end up hurting many people. That stopped me once before, but so much time has passed and my desire only grew stronger. It’s scary, but I know I will never be content with my life if I don’t follow through with it. So, this is for all the people taking a leap of faith, and following their dreams. The only time I can recall being scared and excited all at once.
Out of sight out of mind, am I right? If I don’t talk about it or think about will it go away on its own, or will the burden just weigh heavier on me? These questions go through my head on a daily basis. The feeling of waking up completely drenched in sadness, and wishing you hadn’t woken up in the first place. Not being able to physically get out of bed because the emotions have completely drained you. At times you know why you’re depressed, and there are times where you don’t have a clue. I am one of those people that bury my feelings, and will almost never share how I truly feel because I feel too much. When I do share, it’s only what I think that person can actually handle. My feelings are so complex that it’s hard for me to express to another person. If any of the above describes you, well then you know how especially difficult it is when those emotions flood through the walls you built up. It’s like knowing you’re going to get sucker punched, but just not when. It’s super difficult to deal with the aftermath of it all, and on top of that embarrassing because you don’t know when it will hit you. This has happened to me on several occasions. Crying for me is a way I let out all these emotions; despite the fact, I hate crying and avoid it at all costs. One of the most embarrassing times it has happened to me was at the gym. I was running on the treadmill and doing some deep thinking (not a very good idea for the record), and bam it hit me. The universe literally said screw you Sulvana, and the gates of Hell opened on me. I ran to the locker room immediately. I must have been in there for a good half hour crying till I became numb to it all, and could no longer feel. I can without a doubt say that this was a turning point for me. I realized then what I wish I would have a long time ago. We cannot hide our emotions, nor should we even try. The best way to handle something is right away. Don’t let these unpleasant feelings build up inside of you. It isn’t healthy, and for someone who has been battling depression, this can only make matters worse. Since then, I have become much better at opening up and allowing myself to feel that. I don’t want to sound like I have made a complete change in my life because I still struggle with opening up. I don’t fear facing reality. I just don’t want to feel that pain period. My biggest fear is feeling pain emotionally and psychologically. That is why I don’t have or keep very many people in my life. If that person has done something that hurt me whether it was intentional or not, I drop them from my life like they never existed. Sounds harsh right? People that have depression and battled with depression for a long time know this all too well. Over time, you learn that it’s not worth it to keep people in your life who feed the depression. I wanted to share this because there are so many people out there who have depression that you would think there is nothing wrong with them. I think a lot of people are going to be shocked after reading this because I hear the comment often that it seems like I have everything figured out and things just seem to be going really well for me. Truth is I been battling depression since the 4th grade, and I’m no longer ashamed and/ or afraid to say it.
1. You can’t openly talk to this person. What I mean by this is you can’t say what you really want to say because this person doesn’t seem to care and/ or makes you feel crazy or not normal whenever you do try to bring up a conversation. I’m not talking about random conversations. I’m talking about the conversations where it involves your feelings. Things that are important to you.
2. You always feel like you are doing too much. You ever get that feeling like you’re in a one-sided relationship? You are constantly showing your love and appreciation for this person in hopes they will do the same. Chances are this person doesn’t feel the same way you do about them.
3. You are constantly having to ask for things. What I mean by that is you are having to ask: for your partner to spend time with you, for him/her to show you some type of affection, to do things that regular couples just do.
4. They aren’t there when you need them. When things get real and you are the one in need, your partner is no where to be found. They give you excuses for why they can’t be there or they can’t talk to you at the moment. You are put on the back burner so to speak. Meanwhile you are always quick to jump through hoops to make sure they are alright.
5. Your partner shows no interest in you. Some people in life like the chase more than they like the capture. Did your partner show more interest in you during the talking stage? Now that you are dating they stopped completely showing interest in you. This can be very painful and you can be left feeling pretty lonely. This is a reason you may be doing too much for them. You are trying so hard to get them to show some interest in you whether it’s emotionally or physically, but it just doesn’t work.
Her eyes are something one can never forget.
She’s not at all what you’d expect.
She has the devil’s look and the heart of an angel.
The perfect mixture of heaven and hell.
Think twice before you enter her domain,
she blurred the line between love and pain.
Her heart is big, but can grow so cold.
You’d be wise not to cross her,
that woman is danger even in her most innocent form.
And if after this you still decide to look for her,
you’ll find her waiting where the darkness lingers.
The last few blog posts have received backlash from some readers. I would just like to say that it is my blog, therefore I can and will post what I choose. The poetry I have written express different parts of my life and stages I have gone through. I refuse to censor my writing. I’m not at all trying to be rude. Thank you to everyone who has and continues to read my blog. For the people that have a problem with it I suggest you don’t read at all or read at your own discretion. Sending love to all my readers.
We meet again old friend, it’s as if you never truly left. I feel you now even more so than before. You had me fooled, I wanted to believe in what I once thought was only in my dreams. There for a second I did actually believe. I believed that I had finally found the one that’s going to reciprocate my love. I believed that after all the hardships something good had finally come my way. I believed that I had found someone who adored me as much as I do them. I have since given up on those fairytales, and reverted back to old ways. A few tears and a glass of wine later, I accepted that this is just how it’s meant to be. After all it is better to have died with a cold heart than a broken one. You feel nothing instead of everything.
I crave him in ways that are unimaginable to the human mind. One touch sends me into overdrive, and a kiss into ecstasy. He teases me with his looks. He knows what he is doing to me, and enjoys seeing me agonize over how much I want him. Yet, he still makes me wait. I pretend that he is the devil at times because he makes me want to sin every time he is near. So I wait for him day and night. Just like the devil he is deceiving. He is nowhere to be found when I need him, and only comes around to be pleased. He leaves me wanting him, but him not me. My body and soul long for the love that he is unwilling to give me. I took a chance, little did I know I would be hooked. I’m hooked to a man who doesn’t desire me as much as I do him, but what can I do when I’m completely in love with him? That’s the price I pay for letting the devil take my heart.
She walks amongst you all,
a force to be reckoned with.
She knows no pain,
for she has felt it all.
Her soul lit on fire,
burning the paths beneath her feet.
She is feared,
for she is in love with the darkness.
Constantly being reborn,
she carries the wisdom of over a thousand years.
The devil has nothing on her,
For she is a dead woman walking.